“I am not a race and neither are you. I’m not joking when I talk about White History Week. One of the things that most afflicts this country is that white people don’t know who they are or where they come from. That’s why you think I’m a problem.
I am not the problem; your history is. And as long as you pretend you don’t know your history, you’re gonna be the prisoner of it. And there’s no question of your liberating me, ‘cause you can’t liberate yourselves. We are in this together.
And finally, when white people talk about progress in relation to black people, all they are saying, and all they can possibly mean by the word ‘progress,’ is how quickly and how thoroughly I become white. I don’t want to become white; I want to grow up!
And so should you.”
James Baldwin, 1986
There are so many people who continue to teach me, rescue me, be gracious with me, hold me, correct me and lead me on this messy, collective healing journey. The gratitude cannot sufficiently be wrapped into black & white letters, but alas...
First, it must be acknowledged that I am a settler on the land of the Paugusett and Wappinger people who are indigenous to the area of Southeastern CT. However, I was raised in the south. My ancestors colonized & settled on the land of the Cherokee nation.
You can find more about the land you live on, the folx who are indigenous to that land and how you can actively be a part of building a better future by visiting the Native Land Digital Map.
I am a student of so many queer, Black, indigenous and people of color (BIPOC) who have been doing this work for decades before my body was even able to acknowledge its truths. These are the folks I owe much gratitude to for my own growth, liberation and education; who have helped myself and so many others come to know truth more fully, listed below in no particular order. Social media handles included if applicable.
Beyond Diversity 101, The People's Institute for Survival and Beyond, Niyonu Spann, James Baldwin, Nina Simone, Rebecca Solnit, Roxane Gay (@roxanegay74), Malcolm X, Martin Luther King Jr., Yaa Gyasi, Alida Nugent, Pema Chodron, Mark Nepo, Tarana J. Burke (@taranajaneen) Bryan Stevenson, Asha Bandele (@ashabandele713), Patrisse Khan-Cullors (@osopepatrisse), Ta-Nehisi Coates (@tanehisis.coatess), Amanda Seales (@amandaseales), Michelle Alexander, Brene Brown (@brenebrown), Don Miguel Ruiz (@donmiguelruiz), Austin Channing Brown (@austinchanning), Reni Eddo-Lodge (@renieddolodge), Carol Anderson, Robin DiAngelo (@diangelorobin), Richard Wright, Barbara Ehrenreich, Deirdre English, Leesa Renee Hall (@leesareneehall), Layla F. Saad (@laylafsaad), Rachel Cargle (@rachel.cargle), Glennon Doyle Melton (@glennondoyle), Sassy (@sassy_latte), Desiree Adaway (@desireeadaway), Ijeoma Oluo (@ijeomaoluo), Ibram X. Kendi (@ibramxk), Beyonce (@beyonce), Macklemore (@macklemore), John Biewen, Chenjerai Kumanyika (@chenjerai), Ericka Hart (@ihartericka), Shi Shi Rose (@shishi.rose), Rachel Ricketts (@iamrachelricketts), Brittany Packnett (@mspackyetti), Shay Neary (@watchshayslay), Gxiana McQueen (@gxianabianca), Anna O'Brien (@glitterandlazers), Mark Kanemura (@mkik808), Andrea Ranae (@andrearanaej), Aaron Rose (@aaronxrose), Adriana Trenta (@adrianatrenta), ALOK (@alokvmenon), Travis (@travislabanza), Chani Nicholas (@chaninicholas), Rupi Kaur (@rupikaur_), Luvvie Ajayi (@luvvie), Harnaam Kaur (@harnaamkaur) Eleanor Wheeler (@elliewheels), Sonalee R (@thefatsextherapist), Khushi Malholtra (@khushface), Jasmine Rice LaBeija (@jasminericenyc), Allen (@lilnativeboy), Imogen Fox (@the_feeding_of_the_fox), alexandra elle (@alex_elle), Troy Solomon (@abearnamedtroy), Linda Sarsour (@lsarsour), Tamika Mallory (@tamikadmallory), Liz Plank (@feministabulous)
This list is not exhaustive & excludes many other friends, teachers & earthly family who circle around me daily to carry me forward. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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